Crying is a natural emotional release that supports mental, emotional and even physical health. It’s not a weakness; it’s a built-in healing response.
While women cry 3.5 times per month on average and men cry 1.9 times each month, tears are often seen as a sign of vulnerability or instability, especially in cultures that prize emotional control. But the truth is, crying is one of the most human things we can do, and it comes with real mental health benefits.
Whether it’s a quiet cry in your car, a deep sob after a hard day or a tearful conversation with someone you trust, releasing emotion through tears can be a powerful act of self-care.
Why Do We Cry?
Crying isn’t just about sadness. People cry from stress, relief, anger, joy, frustration and even exhaustion. It’s the body’s way of processing strong emotions that words often can’t capture.
There are three main types of tears:
- Basal tears, which keep your eyes moist and healthy
- Reflex tears, which help wash out irritants such as smoke or dust
- Emotional tears, triggered by intense feelings
It’s the emotional tears, the ones that come from life’s highs and lows, that are most closely linked to mental health benefits.
5 Mental Health Benefits of Crying
1. Emotional Release and Regulation
Crying helps release built-up tension. When you’ve been holding in stress, sadness or anger, crying can give your nervous system a way to reset.
Suppressing emotions has been linked to increased anxiety and depression. By allowing yourself to cry, you give your brain permission to process what you’re feeling instead of pushing it down.
2. Improved Mood
Research shows many people feel better after crying. That’s because tears may help flush out stress-related chemicals such as cortisol. Afterward, the body shifts into a calmer, parasympathetic state, which can help reduce emotional overwhelm. Some people even describe a sense of lightness or relief after a good cry.
3. Strengthened Emotional Awareness
Crying is often a sign that something deeper needs attention. It can help you recognize your emotional triggers and give insight into your values, relationships or unmet needs. Paying attention to when and why you cry can deepen your emotional intelligence and self-understanding.
4. Improved Communication and Connection
Tears can signal vulnerability, need or empathy. In healthy relationships, crying can foster deeper understanding and intimacy. It creates an opportunity for others to comfort you and connect with you, which can be especially important when you’re struggling.
5. Potential Pain Relief
Studies suggest emotional crying may stimulate the release of endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers. This is part of why some people feel physically better after crying, especially during moments of grief or physical exhaustion.
When Crying Feels Shameful or Unsafe
For many people, especially those raised with messages such as “Crying is weak” or “Toughen up,” expressing emotion through tears can feel uncomfortable or even shameful.
They might have internalized beliefs such as:
- “If I cry, I’ve lost control.”
- “People will think I’m overreacting.”
- “I have to stay strong for others.”
These beliefs often come from childhood experiences, cultural expectations or trauma. While it may feel safer to suppress tears, doing so over long periods can harm emotional health and create barriers to connection.
Crying doesn’t make you fragile; it shows you’re in touch with your emotions.
Is Crying Ever a Sign of a Mental Health Issue?
Crying is usually healthy and helpful. However, frequent or uncontrollable crying may be a sign of deeper issues, especially if it’s accompanied by other symptoms such as:
- Feelings of hopelessness
- Difficulty getting out of bed or functioning
- Constant fatigue
- Panic attacks or anxiety spirals
- Loss of interest in things the individual once enjoyed
In some cases, excessive crying may point to depression, anxiety, grief or even neurological conditions. If you’re unsure if your crying or that of a loved one is cause for concern, speaking with a mental health professional can provide clarity and support.
4 Tips for Allowing Yourself to Cry (Without Judgment)
If you’re out of practice letting your tears flow or you feel emotionally stuck, these tips can help you reconnect with your emotions:
1. Create Safe Space
Choose a time and place where you can be alone or feel emotionally safe. That might be retiring to your bedroom, going for a quiet walk or even taking a ride in your car.
2. Allow the Emotion to Rise
Don’t force it. Try journaling, listening to music or thinking through what’s been bothering you. If tears come, let them.
3. Avoid Self-Judgment
Remind yourself: “Crying is normal. Crying is healthy. I’m not broken for feeling this way.”
4. Reach Out If You Want Support
Sometimes crying in front of someone, such as a partner, friend or therapist, can offer a deeper sense of connection and relief. You don’t have to go through difficult feelings alone.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Is It Healthy to Cry Every Day?
It depends. If you cry every day and feel better afterward, it may be a natural way your body processes emotion. However, if the crying feels constant, overwhelming or tied to despair, it may be worth talking to a therapist. - Why Do I Feel Embarrassed After Crying?
Shame around crying is often learned from childhood or social messages. It helps to remind yourself that tears are a sign of courage, not weakness. Over time, you can build a more compassionate response to your emotions. - Can Crying Help Reduce Anxiety?
Yes, in many cases. Crying may activate the body’s calming systems and help release emotional tension, which can ease feelings of anxiety or overwhelm. - What If I Can’t Cry, Even When I Feel Like I Should?
Emotional numbness, suppression or trauma can make it difficult to access tears. Therapy, mindfulness and journaling can help reconnect you with your emotional expression in a safe way.
Your Emotions Are Valid
Crying isn’t something to hide or apologize for. It’s your mind and body’s way of saying, “This matters. I need space to feel this.”
Whether you’re grieving, anxious, overwhelmed or simply processing a tough season in life, tears are a valid and healthy way to release what you’re holding.
We’re Here for You
If your emotions ever feel too big to carry alone or you’re unsure what’s beneath the tears, the Mental Health Hotline is here for you. We offer free, confidential support 24-7, and we’re ready to listen without judgment. Call today. Let the tears flow and the healing begin.
