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Key Takeaways
Helping someone with psychosis starts with staying calm, listening without judgment and letting them lead the pace. Don’t argue with hallucinations or delusions, but don’t pretend to share them either; focus on how the person feels and on keeping them safe. You can’t force treatment, but you can stay connected and help them find support. If you’re not sure where to start, call the Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 to get connected with resources for your loved one or for yourself.
When someone you love is experiencing psychosis, it can be frightening and confusing, both for them and for you. The good news is that you don’t need clinical training to help. Often the most valuable things you can offer are a calm presence, a willingness to listen and a steady hand in connecting them to support.
You won’t be able to fix it or talk anyone out of what they’re experiencing, and that isn’t your job. What you can do is communicate in ways that lower distress rather than raise it, recognize when more help is needed and remind the person they’re not alone.
If someone you care about is experiencing psychosis and you’re not sure where to start, you don’t have to figure it out alone. You can call the Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 any time to get connected with support and local resources, for your loved one or for yourself.
What Is Psychosis?
Psychosis isn’t a single illness or a personality type. It’s a general term for a state in which a person loses touch with reality, usually through hallucinations (sensing things that aren’t there) or delusions (firmly held false beliefs). One of the hardest parts for loved ones is that a person in psychosis often doesn’t realize anything is wrong, which can make offering help complicated. For a fuller picture of the condition and how it’s supported, see our overview of psychosis.
Contrary to common misconception, psychosis isn’t an intellectual disability, a “split personality” or any single condition. It affects different people differently. Someone experiencing it may become severely distressed, behave very differently from their usual self and find the experience disrupts their relationships, work and self-care. That strain often reaches the people closest to them, too, which is exactly why learning a few effective ways to respond can help everyone involved.
What Causes Psychosis?
Psychosis can be a symptom of another condition, such as bipolar disorder, schizophrenia or dementia. It can also follow severe physical or emotional trauma or result from drug or alcohol use. Because the underlying causes vary so widely, only a qualified medical or mental health professional can determine what’s driving a given episode.
Key Statistic
Psychosis is more common than many people realize. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, as many as 3 in 100 people will experience an episode at some point in their lives, and roughly 100,000 young people in the United States have a first episode each year. Acting early to connect someone with support can make a lasting difference.
Signs to Be Aware Of
Noticing when someone is experiencing psychosis can alert you that they may need support in the moment, and it helps you stay sensitive to their state during a conversation so you can adjust your approach as needed.
Common signs of psychosis include:
- Becoming distracted by sounds, sights or other perceptions you can’t sense
- Being hard to follow or comprehend
- Changing topics rapidly
- Speaking excessively fast or slowly
- Experiencing trouble with memory or focus
- Displaying lethargy, fatigue or sluggishness
- Using language unfamiliar or unintelligible to you
What Helps and What to Avoid
Much of supporting someone through psychosis comes down to staying calm, neutral and led by them. The overview below summarizes the approaches that tend to help and the ones that usually make things harder.
| When talking with someone experiencing psychosis | What helps | What to avoid |
|---|---|---|
| Your approach | Come from a supportive, nonjudgmental place | Judging, ridiculing or shaming the person |
| Listening | Acknowledge what they say and reflect it back in your own words | Interrupting, dismissing or minimizing their experience |
| Hallucinations & delusions | Stay neutral; don’t pretend to share them or argue against them | Pretending to see what they see or trying to reason them out of it |
| Language | Speak in plain, conversational terms | Patronizing simple talk, clinical jargon or stigmatizing words |
| Space & touch | Ask before touching; keep a comfortable distance and visible hands | Touching without permission or crowding them |
| If they decline help | Let them know you’re there and step back, unless safety is a concern | Pressuring them to talk or to seek help |
How to Talk to Someone Experiencing Psychosis
A conversation may begin at either person’s initiative. If your loved one comes to you, make sure you have time to give them your full attention; if you can’t right then, gently say so and suggest a time when you can. If you’re the one approaching because you’re concerned, do it calmly and gently in a safe and private setting rather than in front of a group, where it could feel confrontational.
Lead With Empathy, Not Judgment
The most important thing when talking with someone experiencing psychosis is to come from a supportive, nonjudgmental place. Let yourself feel empathy for what they’re going through, and let it show in how you communicate.
Acknowledge what the person is saying and how they’re feeling. Ask them to clarify points, which shows you’re listening, then repeat back in your own words what they’re expressing to confirm you’ve understood. Often, simply feeling understood is enough to help someone calm down. Once you’re both clear that you understand their experience, you can name the feeling — for instance, “That sounds really upsetting.”
Language and Body Language
The words you choose can help or hinder. Avoid overly simple phrasing that can sound patronizing, and avoid stigmatizing terms; the point is to make the person feel respected, not labeled. Skip clinical jargon, too, even if you both know it.
Instead, speak in normal, conversational terms, mirroring the words the person is already using to describe their experience, such as saying “stress” rather than a clinical label like PTSD.
Your body matters as much as your words. Avoid signaling anxiety, stress or discomfort through tense posture, fidgeting, pacing or constantly avoiding eye contact. Give the person space, and avoid physical contact unless they invite it. Step in physically only if they’re at risk of harming themselves or someone else, and call 911 if anyone is in immediate danger. Notice how you’re positioned relative to each other, and adjust to stay nonthreatening and at a comfortable distance.
What to Avoid
Knowing what not to do is just as important. Most of all, don’t ignore the signs of an episode when you see them. They can appear suddenly or build gradually, and you may not be certain what you’re witnessing. Take your observations seriously anyway, and respond as you would if you were sure.
Don’t explain the signs away as the person “just being a teenager,” going through “a phase” or having a bad week. Don’t assume they’re simply under the influence of drugs or alcohol, and don’t assume the problem will resolve on its own. And if, despite your efforts, the person doesn’t want to talk or doesn’t see a problem, don’t pressure them. Tell them you’re there if they change their mind, and unless you’re concerned for their safety, give them space.
Understanding Hallucinations, Delusions and Paranoia
Some symptoms are especially hard to respond to. Knowing what they are and how to react can help you stay steady when they appear.
Hallucinations
Hallucinations can affect any of the senses. The most common are auditory (hearing voices or sounds), visual (seeing people, objects or flashes of light) and tactile (physical sensations such as insects crawling on the skin or sudden heat or cold). Some involve several senses at once and can be vivid and long-lasting.
Whatever form it takes, aim to acknowledge what the person is sensing while gently reducing outside stimulation; moving to a quiet, comfortable room can help. If your loved one refers to a hallucination in a particular way, use their words for it. For example, if they call an imagined voice “Joe,” use that name when you ask them about it.
Don’t pretend to see or hear the same things in an effort to calm them, and don’t argue against what they’re experiencing or try to reason them out of it. Avoid acting surprised, embarrassed or distressed, and never mock, tease or try to make sense of the hallucination out loud.
Delusions
Delusions are false beliefs held with strong conviction, such as the person believing they are being followed or have special powers. Some center on everyday situations that simply aren’t true at the moment; others involve impossible scenarios. As with hallucinations, don’t confirm the belief, but don’t dismiss or argue against it either.
The most effective response is to focus on the emotion rather than the belief. Acknowledge how the experience must feel: “That sounds really frightening.” This lets the person feel understood without you endorsing something untrue, and it often lowers the distress more than any debate about facts could.
Paranoia
With paranoia, the first step is the same: Don’t validate or dismiss the person’s fears, and don’t shame them for having them. You can tell them you don’t notice the same threat but you’ll stay with them if it helps them feel safer. If it’s possible and safe, gently steer them away from the source of the fear, suggesting you head indoors together, for example, or take the stairs instead of an elevator.
Keep them informed: Tell the person what you’re going to do before you do it, and give calm, clear, simple directions for anything you’d like them to do. Watch your body language so it doesn’t feed the paranoia — keep your hands visible rather than in your pockets or behind your back, and stay at a comfortable distance.
When Communication Is Difficult
Psychosis can affect speech and the ability to reason or comprehend. The person may drift between topics, switch between shouting and muttering, give unrelated answers or miss cues like tone of voice and facial expressions. If you don’t know them well, it can help to find someone closer to them to learn how best to communicate.
Otherwise, speak simply and clearly, repeat yourself as needed and avoid sarcasm, metaphor and other complex forms of communication. Give the person time to express what they need without interrupting. If you can’t follow their words, try to read their emotions so you can at least connect with how they’re feeling. Even when communication is limited, simply being present can be a comfort.
Treatment and Getting Help
Only a qualified medical or mental health professional can diagnose and treat psychosis, but you can play a meaningful role in helping your loved one get there. Treatment usually combines medication, cognitive behavioral therapy (a type of therapy that helps people manage symptoms by changing patterns of thinking and behavior) and care for any underlying condition. During a severe episode, a person may need inpatient care for a time.
Avoid raising treatment in the middle of an active episode. Wait for a calm moment, then talk through options without pressure. If your loved one doesn’t want help, don’t force the issue; the choice is ultimately theirs. Share information, stay available and let them know the door stays open. Part of what makes psychosis hard to treat is that someone in an episode may believe nothing is wrong or that treatment itself is dangerous, so staying connected matters even when they’re not ready. Once someone does seek help, gentle encouragement to stick with the plan can make a real difference.
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to learn what’s available. To understand the steps involved, see our guide on getting diagnosed with psychosis. And if you’d like help finding local options, you can call the Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 to get connected with mental health resources and support for your loved one or for yourself.
Frequently Asked Questions
Stay calm and come from a supportive, nonjudgmental place. Use plain, conversational language, acknowledge what they say and reflect it back and ask before touching them. Give them time to express themselves, and let them lead the pace.
Don’t pretend to share a hallucination or validate a delusion, but don’t argue against it or dismiss it either. Avoid stigmatizing words, clinical jargon and patronizing simple talk, and don’t pressure them to talk or to seek help.
A lack of insight is common in psychosis, so this happens often. If they’re not in crisis and don’t want to talk, don’t pressure them; let them know you’re there if they change their mind and step back. If you’re ever concerned for their safety, call 911 for immediate danger, or call or text 988 for a mental health crisis.
It can be hard to provide the right support on your own. The Mental Health Hotline can connect you with local resources and support, free and confidential, 24/7. Call 866-903-3787 for your loved one or for yourself.
Support for You and Your Loved One
Supporting someone through psychosis can be hard, and it’s okay not to have all the answers. You don’t have to do it alone. The Mental Health Hotline can help you find local resources and figure out the next step, whether you’re calling about someone you know or about your own mental health.
You don’t have to wait for a crisis to reach out. Free, confidential support is available any time, day or night.
Sources
National Alliance on Mental Illness. “Psychosis.” Supports the prevalence and first-episode figures.
National Institute of Mental Health. “Understanding Psychosis.” Supports the description of psychosis, its symptoms and treatment approaches.
NSW Health. “Communicating with someone experiencing psychosis.” Supports the signs of psychosis list and the communication guidance.